Common Says Therapy Showed Him Why He Can’t Hold Down A Romantic Relationship

His recently released Let Love Have The Last Word memoir has given Common an opportunity to connect with fans in a fresh way as he has become vulnerable with the public. The rapper even revealed that he was molested as a child, detailing his experience with the hope that he’ll be able to help others who have endured similar experiences. A new album is also on the horizon as Common says he was inspired to create musically as he penned his autobiography.

The Chicago legend continues to make the media rounds in an effort to promote his memoir, and during a recent sit down with The Breakfast Club, Common said that he’s come to some realizations about his romantic life while in therapy. “The pattern I found myself in—and my therapist broke it down—was the feeling of being in love and that honeymoon period. I was addicted to that feeling,” he said.

Common is one of the most eligible bachelors in hip hop and many expected for him to be married by now. He’s been romantically linked to Erykah Badu, Serena Williams, Taraji P. Henson, Regina Hall, Laura Dern, and Angela Rye. “When that feeling would go away and the real part of the relationships came, I was like, ‘OK. Do I want this or not?’ I wasn’t ready to do the work,” he said.

He told the radio hosts he’s not a sex addict, but more of a pursuit-of-love addict. “I obviously care for the person, but when things got tough and it was time to work through stuff, I wasn’t willing to work through it,” he stated. “It’s also a process and a journey to get to understanding how to be full in a relationship, and be a full and complete person as much as possible,” adding it’s “fun to have a partner who you can really enjoy and can be really friends [with].”